The Big Idea: Use mentors to shorten your learning curve.
- Good artists copy and great artists steal. —Picasso
- If I’m great it’s because I’m standing on the shoulders of giants. —Einstein
- To get what you want you must be a learning machine.
- Poor people should take rich people to dinner.
- 70% of communication is nonverbal.
- Find a mentor for every goal you want, who are 10-20 years ahead of where you want to be.
- Ellen Degeneres had Oprah as her mentor.
- Draft behind your mentors like race cars or geese in formation.
- Law of 33%: 1/3 of time with people below your level (good for your self-esteem and good for their development), 1/3 with people at your level (good for friendship and loyalty), 1/3 with people above your level (good for your development).
- Don’t seek professional mentors, seek professional doers and learn from osmosis (even if difficult).
- I don’t mind carrying a man but I don’t want him dragging his feet. –Joel Salatin
- You want it to be tough. You want it to be hard. The hard is what makes it worth it. — Tom Hanks
- Jeff Bezos was mentored by Sam Walton through Walton’s autobiography.
- To learn from a mentor, you’ll absorb by osmosis not by direct teaching.
- Make a list of mentors to meet who are 10-20 years ahead of you.
- Be persistent in trying to contact mentors.
- Half of success is just showing up, but that means showing up over and over.
- Email + handwritten letter >> email alone.
- Be patient when cultivating mentors because people need time to trust you.
- Mentors can weave in and out of your life, keep in touch.
- LPT: become a blogger in order to interview possible mentors, then always give them a small gift.
- Reciprocal bias/reward bias: buy mentors small gifts and they will remember you.
- LPT: give an assistant automated instructions to send potential mentors small gifts (eg coffee table book of their city).
- Also add value to your mentor’s life.
- Great books can be mentors but in-person mentors are preferred.
- Try for the top guys in your field first.
- Add value 3 times before asking for value 1 time.
- Read great books to make you worthy of mentorship.
Tai Lopez is an entrepreneur, investor, and blogger who runs an awesome online book club. 67 Steps is a lecture series teaching how to be successful in health, wealth, love, and happiness. I’m a big fan.